One specific reason for having sex is associated with higher stress levels the next day
Sexual activity is often touted in popular culture as a natural remedy for daily tension and anxiety. A recent study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior provides evidence that while sex is associated with lower stress on the day it occurs, these benefits generally do not persist into the following day. The findings also suggest that the motivation behind the sexual encounter plays an important role in its emotional aftermath, as sex initiated to avoid relationship conflict was linked to increased stress levels 24 hours later.
The idea that physical intimacy can alleviate stress is not merely a product of television sitcoms or magazines. Psychological theories regarding affectionate touch suggest that physical contact reduces negative emotions through specific neurobiological pathways. Sexual activity triggers the release of hormones like oxytocin and endogenous opioids, which are known to modulate the body’s stress response.
Prior research has supported this connection to some degree, linking frequent sexual activity to higher life satisfaction and lower negative mood. However, few studies have examined the day-to-day fluctuations of this relationship or tested how long the stress-relieving effects actually last.
Previous daily-diary studies have produced mixed results and often relied on small samples of college students or older adults. The authors of the current study aimed to address these gaps by analyzing a large, pooled sample of newlywed couples to provide a more robust test of these associations.
“There’s this widespread, lay belief that sex is a natural stress reliever, but very little research has actually provided compelling empirical evidence to support this belief,” explained study author Sierra D. Peters, an assistant professor of psychology at Rhodes College. “Prior studies were small, inconsistent, and often focused on students or single individuals. Thus, our goal was to examine whether sexual activity actually does reduce stress in a high-powered study of real long-term couples. We were also interested in whether the context of sex—why couples are having it and how satisfying it is—impacts any stress-relieving properties of sex.”
To investigate the temporal relationship between sex and stress, the researchers combined data from three independent studies. The final sample included 645 individuals, comprising 319 couples. The participants were generally young adults in their mid-twenties to early thirties. All participants were in the early stages of marriage, having been wed for less than six months on average.
The research employed a daily-diary design, which allows researchers to capture real-life experiences as they happen rather than relying on retrospective memory. Couples first completed a baseline session where they provided demographic information and completed standard measures of personality and relationship satisfaction. Following this, each partner completed a survey every evening for 14 consecutive days.
On each of these 14 days, participants reported whether they had engaged in sexual activity with their partner. They also rated their daily experiences of stress and anxiety on a scale from one to seven. The researchers combined reports from both partners to ensure accuracy regarding whether sex occurred on a given day.
When sexual activity did take place, participants answered additional questions about the encounter. They rated how satisfied they were with the sex. They also indicated their motives for being intimate. Specifically, they reported the extent to which they engaged in sex to please their partner, known as an approach motive. They also reported if they had sex to avoid conflict in the relationship, known as an avoidance motive.
The researchers used advanced statistical modeling to analyze the daily fluctuations within each person and couple. They looked at the association between sex and stress on the same day. They also examined the “lagged” association to see if having sex on one day predicted stress levels on the subsequent day.
The researchers found an association between sexual activity and reduced stress on the same day. On days when couples engaged in sex, they reported lower levels of stress compared to days when they did not. This association remained significant even when the researchers accounted for other factors like daily negative mood.
This immediate reduction in stress appeared to be universal within the sample. The researchers found no evidence that the effect differed between men and women. It also did not depend on the couple’s general level of marital satisfaction. Both husbands and wives in happy or less happy marriages experienced similar same-day benefits.
However, the stress-relieving properties of sexual activity appeared to be transient. The analysis revealed that engaging in sex on a given day was not associated with reduced stress the next day. The beneficial effects observed on the day of intimacy did not carry over across a 24-hour period. This suggests that the neurobiological or psychological boost provided by sex is relatively short-lived.
“I was a little surprised to see how transient the benefits of engaging in partnered sex were; we expected them to last at least 24 hours, but they did not,” Peters told PsyPost.
The researchers also found that the quality of the sexual experience mattered for immediate well-being. People who reported higher satisfaction with the sexual encounter experienced greater reductions in stress that same day. However, like the act of sex itself, this satisfaction did not predict lower stress levels the following day.
One of the most significant findings concerned the motivations behind sexual activity. The data indicated that why people have sex is just as important as whether they have sex. When individuals engaged in sexual activity to avoid negative outcomes, such as conflict or partner disappointment, the results were detrimental.
Specifically, engaging in sex with avoidance motives was associated with higher levels of stress the next day. This finding aligns with broader psychological theories regarding approach and avoidance motivation. Actions taken to evade negative experiences often result in increased anxiety and vigilance. In the context of a relationship, having sex to prevent a fight may paradoxically create the very tension the individual hopes to escape.
On the other hand, engaging in sex for approach motives, such as wanting to please a partner, showed a different pattern. There was some evidence that this motivation was linked to lower stress the next day. However, this particular finding was not as robust when the researchers controlled for other personality variables.
“One big takeaway from this research is that sex can reduce stress—but these beneficial effects appear to be fairly short-lived,” Peters explained. “We found that on days couples had sex, they felt less stressed that same day. However, those benefits didn’t carry over to the next day. Another important conclusion from this research is that why people are having sex matters. When couples had sex to avoid conflict or tension in their relationship, they actually felt more stressed, and that heightened stress carried into the next day.”
“These were small effects, but that’s typical for daily events that occur within relationships (e.g., mood, stress) which are influenced by many different things simultaneously. The changes we observed weren’t dramatic—but they were reliable across more than 8,000 days of data. In practical terms, sex isn’t the end all, be all cure for stress. It may provide a short-term buffer, but it’s probably not a substitute for addressing the underlying sources of stress.”
The study has several strengths, including its large sample size and the use of dyadic data from both spouses. Focusing on newlyweds also provided a sample where sexual frequency is typically higher than in long-term marriages. This allowed for sufficient variability in the data to detect these daily patterns.
Despite these strengths, the study is not without limitations. The data is correlational, which means researchers cannot definitively claim that sex causes the reduction in stress. It is equally plausible that days with lower stress levels simply make people more inclined to engage in sexual activity. The researchers attempted to control for prior-day stress to account for this, but the direction of causality remains a question.
Another limitation involves the demographic homogeneity of the sample. The participants were primarily heterosexual, Caucasian, and residing in the United States. They were also all newlyweds, a group that typically reports high relationship satisfaction.
“One caveat worth noting is that these data come from newlywed couples,” Peters noted. “Thus, the findings may not generalize to longer-term marriages, dating couples, or single individuals. It’s also important to remember that these data are correlational, so drawing causal conclusions is not appropriate.”
“Going forward, I’m interested in differentiating between different sources (e.g., internal versus external) and types (e.g., acute versus chronic) of stress and complementing self-report measures with physiological indicators of stress, such as cortisol or blood pressure. If the benefits of sex are primarily short-term and neurobiological, these kinds of measures may provide a clearer picture of the conditions under which sexual activity truly helps regulate different kinds of stress.”
The study, “Does Sex Today Relieve Stress Tomorrow? Examining Lagged Associations Between Partnered Sexual Activity and Stress Among Newlywed Couples,” was authored by Sierra D. Peters, Devon S. Glicken, and Andrea L. Meltzer.
















